Beginning of October

Ruby just turned 2.5 years and Livi, 5 months.

Ruby started preschool at Montessori in about mid-August. At first I considered it daycare, but after parents’ night, I got a really good impression of it. I think she’s learning a lot of things there that we can’t teach her here.

One of the things that Ruby really loves are animals. I have a feeling she’s going to make us get a dog when she gets older. Or maybe a cat. I think she’s a cat person. If she could have a choice, I’d be she’d want us to get an elephant. She loves them the best.

Ruby isn’t completely 100% toilet trained. For pooing, she’s completely toilet trained. She doesn’t tell us when she needs to pee until she’s peed a couple drops into her underwear, but now she can wait longer before that happens. If we take her to the toilet every one and a half hours, we never get an accident. At least now, she never has accidents that are bad enough to reach the floor.

We have the sense that Ruby is dropping her daytime nap because sometimes she goes through a whole day without napping, but then she crashes the next day. We try to put her to bed earlier so she can get the sleep she needs for the day, but it’s hard to put her to bed early enough. Right now we’re kind of in an awkward stage where she naps on day and perhaps doesn’t get a nap the next.

Livi is gaining weight extremely slowly. Feeding her has been a huge challenge. She rarely finishes a breast, and she entirely rejects bottle feeding. So we’ve had to feed her with a dropper, with each ounce taking about 10-20 minutes. And we have to be very careful because she can vomit it up. Just two hours ago I was just about finishing a milestone ounce and about to burp her when she vomited two ounces. Frustrating as hell.

Livi’s thrush has gotten better but she still doesn’t have good feeding habits. She gets up twice a night now. I don’t know how Illie can maintain this with the little amount of sleep she gets, but she does. We moved Livi out of our room into her own shortly before Illie resumed work.

At least Livi’s personality remains very easy. She was turning a bit after she turned 4 months, and now after turning 5 months she’s rotating along the floor clockwise. It doesn’t take much effort to get her to laugh. If it weren’t for the difficulty feeding, she’d be the perfect baby.

In September Rosa and I went to our British cousin’s wedding. She didn’t get a professional wedding photographer so I volunteered. It was the first wedding that I shot seriously, after getting professional equipment and post-processing software. I took a week to post-process the pictures, and in the end I think my cousin is happy with the pictures. I have a lot of improving to do, but I’m really not serious or ambitious enough to put effort into getting better. In any case, I loved the place. It was so beautiful. It reminded me of Williamstown, and after getting back here I had pleasant nighttime dreams about being back in that environment. I miss being in such a green place with real seasons.

Between the two kids, we have almost no free time. After the kids are up, it’s go and go until they go to sleep. We’ve been trying to get Ruby to be interested in books so we try to borrow about 5-10 books from the library every so often. I probably read to her about 5-10 stories a day – and it’s working, because Ruby is constantly asking me to read her books. I really have no idea how parents with more than two kids do it. Even one kid is really busy.

My effort to get back into shape is really difficult. On weekends, I get up at 4:30am to do a 8-9 mile run and get back before 7am before the kids get up. In the middle of the week I try to alternate between cycling and running, but when Illie’s mom is out on vacation I cull the cycling part. I’m in better shape than I was during the summer, but not close to where I was back before Ruby was born.

4 thoughts on “Beginning of October”

  1. With three kids, the eldest kid is able to help a little with the youngest. Even with a three- to four-year spread (the minimum), sure, the eldest still needs plenty of attention, but some of it can be attention shared with the youngest. Even with two kids—by the time Livi is being toilet trained, Ruby will be able to encourage her.

    I totally agree that one kid is really busy, but I have come to realize (without wanting to have another child) that kids and teaching operate on the same metrics: they will consume (productively) all the time one cares to give them. One can give less, but if there’s no major competing activity, why would one?

  2. true – about three kids. I have a former coworker who had twins and then another kid last December. He says things are easy. I don’t know how other parents do it.

    it would just be too crazy if we had ruby and then twins. And what if the twins are just as difficult to feed as livi? Illie and I are talking about how busy it is and we pretty much concluded that after we get home from work on weekdays, there are three parallel tasks that constantly need attention until we put the kids to bed.

    on the weekends it can be better but with Ruby starting to drop her nap we have less downtime. I try to read to her a lot, we try to go to the library and borrow books for Ruby. I probably went through over 30 stories (lots of re-reading) over the weekend and all that reading aloud can be tiring.

  3. You seem to really like that picture focusing on the D&C with them in the background. 🙂 That makes me happy.

    I’ll be there to help on Sunday if you guys are around. Let me know. I got tired reading your post and want to help as much as I can so I don’t miss out.

    At the bridal shower I went to two weekends ago, I stopped by the store at the Japanese American museum because it was right next door and got some of those paper blow up balls like the ones we had when we were little for the kids to play with… and bought a few more kiddie books to read to Ruby with too. Wish I were closer…

  4. that picture is the cover picture for the album. great idea rosa 🙂

    we don’t have plans on Sunday, feel free to come by. 🙂

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